Sunday, November 01, 2009

Haha... I do not even know where to begin.... Here are something that I have realized from the last few months...

When it comes to relationships, I need a guy that is more like me... Personality wise! I enjoy going out and having fun and being the life of the party... that's just me!! I mean don't get me wrong, I do like to just chill here and there, avoiding the party scene. But I like to have fun with whatever I'm doing! I love to smile... it just makes life so much better! I just want a guy that is like that... I know that opposites attract but I don't think that is always the case... and that the opposite attraction can just lead to heartbreak... because when it doesn't work out because of all their differences they are left believing that they lost the love of their life, when Mr. Perfect is apparently still out there!!! Another thing is do not settle because you do not think there is anyone else out there... He is, you just have not found him yet! If a guy wants you to make all the sacrifices then it is not worth it, if he wants you to give you to give up your hopes and dreams then is is not worth it. I mean I had a guy throw everything away with us because I would not give up my dream of airborne school! I know that to some people jumping out of a perfectly fine airplane is crazy... but it is something that I have always wanted to do!!! If he really loved me like he said he did then that would not have stopped him.... he would have been excited about one of my dreams coming true!!! Trust me there is a guy out there that will truly treat you like the princess that you are!! You just have to have faith that you will find him! Trust and communication are another thing that has to be on both parts! The guy can not just expect it from you... he has to equally show it! Not talking about problems is probably one of the biggest down falls of relationships and it because one of the persons involved is not willing to talk about everything going on in their life but they expect their partner to... bull shit! You both have to talk about what all is going on in both of your lives!!

So what I meant by settling is... make sure the man you are falling for has the qualities you want in a man... as for me... that would be a christian, because like my mother says "you cannot be unequally yoked! Another important thing to me is water... I love the water and expect the man I am meant to be with will too. Nothing is better than a sunset or sunrise on the water!! the way the sun and moon glimmer on the water is just amazing I cannot do it justice by describing it...its just amazing beautiful!!! plus there are so many things that you can do on the water... tubing, swimming, knee boarding, wake boarding... and so on...

Like I said there has to be a happy medium with everything in a relationship... from communication, trust, commitment and compromise... You both have to be willing to work together to make it last!!!

As for the friendship department... I normally choose to hang out with guys over girls because there is less drama... well with in the last month that has not been the case! I have seen at least three guys in the mid to older twenties act like five year old children! They have held grudges longer than girls that actually have a reason to be mad... These men.... or should I say boys... have just not gotten their way and had people stand up and not deal with bull shit! So I guess what I am trying to say is that shit blows up in their face and they throw a temper tantrum like a child! I mean seriously Grow up and act your age!!!

Like Marilyn Monroe said, " I'm selfish, impatient, a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."


This quote works with both relationships and friendships because it is inevitable that something is not going to be perfect, something is going to happen... but will your love for them be able to overcome that mistake... are you willing to accept them at their worst so you can have them at their best?? I know that to me... friends are very important and I would do anything for them... my trust in people is something that i give to easy and is often taken for granted! I always try to look for the best in people and that is what means the most to me! Friends, family and that special man are very important to me!! and I try to accept every ones flaws because that is the beauty of their uniqueness!! No one is Perfect... just have to accept it and love them for who they are!!!

3 comments:

~JAHNA~ said...

Wow dude long winded much!! lol jk
Love Ya!

Jinon Nane' said...

i absolutely, freakin love you!!! <3

Puddleduck Bunch said...

I think that you need to update already! :) had fun last weekend. Love you.